I’m a small time blogger. I don’t have a huge following. Sometimes I get down on myself about it, especially when I see new bloggers getting tons of likes on Facebook (please like me, I only have 12!!!), and seemingly getting on the fast track popular bandwagon with tons of comments per post. I like to think I’m witty and funny and have something to bring to the table. Maybe I don’t. But that’s not what I’m here to talk about.
The blogging world is big enough for my blog, your blog, and any other blog out there, and there is NO reason why anyone should have to stoop to the level of negativity, humiliation, and ridicule that I’ve seen today. So what if someone moderates their comments? So what if someone blogs about their life and their own personal trials? It doesn’t give you the license to write a post and BULLY them online. (I’m not even going to degrade myself and link to that filth.)
There is no reason to comment on someone else’s body, just because you can hide behind a fake online persona. There is no reason to make fun of someone because of what they are wearing, or eating, or not eating. There is no reason to belittle someone for their choices.
I have a real hard time seeing this cyberbullying among my peers. I had really, really hoped that people would grow up by the time they reached their 20’s and 30’s. (Clearly many haven’t.) And while, I have fallen prey to the occasional snarky remark in my life, I would never, ever treat anyone this way, because I know what it is like to be bullied. I know how harmful it is. It’s why I changed the direction of my life and am devoting these years to cyberbullying research.
If you wouldn’t say something directly to a blogger in real life, then you shouldn’t say it at all. Like my mom always used to tell me, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” Sound advice that.